Raising 21st century children goes far beyond ensuring that their physical provisions of what to eat, where to live and what clothing to wear are met. Parents must ensure that the skills essential for their success be cultivated, so they can maximally contribute their own quota to the society where they will live.
Empowering according to the cambridge online dictionary is to,
Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary & Thesaurus © Cambridge University Press)
Children of this era have to be given the freedom WITH SOME GUIDANCE of course, to do something, to be who they want to be, to make thier own choices and fail their own failures.
Read further as I share with you my top 3 parenting tips to empower your children.
1. Believe in Your Children
Do you believe in your children? Then say so. Let them know that you believe in their dreams and in their ability to succeed. Let them know you are routing for them, praying for them and standing by their side whether it turns out they eventually fall short or not
Whenever you sense tentativeness in their statements, remind them that they have all it takes, that they were born for a time as the moment, that they are wired to succeed and will only know if they tried.
Give them examples of people who attempted things they thought they were not good at and eventually succeeded through hard work, perseverance and focus.
Soon enough they will begin to believe in and have confidence in themselves because you encouraged them to.
2. Guide them to Increase their Self Awareness
What is happening around your child at school? Around the home? In church?
Help your children voice out their thoughts by asking questions that will reveal what their thinking is and what they are experiencing. Do not interupt them while they are speaking and do not put words in their mouth.
Some questions you may ask are:
- What question did you ask today at school?
- What problem did you solve?
- How did you feel today?
- What are some nice things you did to some one today?
With the information you get from this daily exercise, you will be able to know how your child feels about him/herself in relation to others, your child’s fears and strengths and how your child feels about certain things.
You will then be able to guide your child to understand their own feelings, show him/her why they need to change their thinking about some things and how to respect the feelings of others.
3. Let Your Children Be
Many parents have refused to let children be. They think they are trying to help, trying to be good parents, so they make sure to do everything for their children. They feed the child, complete their home work, fix their room, make their beds and hold their hands to learn to write!
Some of them have vowed not to allow their children pass through the hardships they passed through growing up, they go on to promise to provide everything for their children no matter what it takes.
The above attitude inadvertently places their children on a dangerous pathway of self-indulgence.
Children learn best by doing, when you stop them from doing you stop them form learning and it even goes beyond that, they lose confidence in themselves. They feel incapable and inadequate
Allow the children mess up themselves while feeding themselves, allow them attempt to fix their rooms, lay their beds and write. They may not get it right at first but constant practise they would become good at anything they try. Please never hold your child’s hand to write, never complete assignments for them.
When you let your children be, you are empowering them to face their own problems and solve them, they are emboldened and ready to take on the world.
What are other tips you have been successful with that empowered your children?
Please share with us in the comments section.